Style-spiration: Love What You Do

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I’m a natural born talker. I enjoy talking to people and hearing about their background stories. Conversations are my favorite past time. It is the love of stories that I built my business on.

Style-spiration-Love What You Do-titleToday, I have a speaking gig. I’m kind of nervous, but I’m playing it cool by tricking my mind into thinking that I’m more prepared than I feel like I am. A part of me has always wanted to speak in front of crowds and have candid conversations with strangers.

When the opportunity came to speak at Southwired — formerly Digital Atlanta, is one of the Southeast’s largest and longest running digital conferences starring the country’s top innovators. Hosted in Atlanta each year, the five day brain exchange features the biggest innovators in digital technology and media – giving attendees all access to best practices, industry trends and next gen breakthroughs (website)– I knew that I wanted to be a part of it to exercise my public speaking chops as well as market myself as an innovator in branding and digital marketing.

 

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To me this is a huge check mark on my list of accomplishments this year. It’s a testament to being able to do the things that I love. As the year winds down, so many of the conversations I’ve over heard or have been a part of have been about revisiting everything that we’ve been through, accomplished, and dealt with in the past year…personally.

I have to honestly say that this has been the year where the love of what I do + my determination and work ethic + my unapologetic belief in myself are all starting to come together. I believe this has been the year where loving what I do motivates me to continue to do what I love.

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Have you experienced that moment? That moment when you catch yourself in the middle of executing your dream to realize that you actually LOVE what you do and wouldn’t trade any of it in the world? Not the loss of the sleep. Not the rejection. Not the opportunities for the 9 to 5. Not the employer for employee. Not the influence or access or thought leadership. I’m there. In the middle of creating and planning events, hosting and speaking, consulting and mentoring, I realized that I truly truly love what I do and that’s the only way to be able to do what you love.

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Style-spriation: What having it together looks like

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This week has been pretty much amazing! I got the chance to experience Shake Shack. Hosted an awesome event curated by my brand and later tonight I’ll be going to the annual Art Beats + Lyrics event sponsored by Jack Daniels here in Atlanta. You would think someone as put together looking as me would actually be put together….

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I think this week has taught me that looking put together and being put together are two totally different things. As awesome as my week has been for both my personal and professional brands…I have been missing out on some very important things! I feel like a hot mess!!!! *insert emoji*

I missed not one, but TWO  conference calls this week all because I relied too heavily on my apparently malfunctioning reminder and calendar. Ugh! The part of me that is too hard on myself feels like a serious failure. The entrepreneur in me is dying for an assistant that’s reliable. And the Aquarius in me is like ‘get over it and do better next time.’

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I remember having a conversation with a friend of mine that asked me how do I do all the things I do from growing my brand to being a wife…who cooks no less than four times a week to mentoring to being an entrepreneur, I simply told them that ‘I just make it look good, but behind the scenes I’m a bit of a hot mess.’

The thing about looking like you have it together is knowing when you don’t actually have it together and allowing that overwhelming feeling to consume me with failure so that I can learn and grow from it. Am I mad that I messed up? Absolutely! Will I let it defeat me? Hell no! Am I going to ensure that I rectify my mistake? You bet! Like Walt Disney said,

All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me…
You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.

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Style-spiration: Unphased

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I lost a client last week.

Well to be fair, they hadn’t signed on to be a client yet. However, based on very tense and detailed discussions, they had already started to feel like clients. When they dropped the bomb on me that they didn’t want to continue based on their already bloated budget, I easily could have got mad. I had already put in close to 10 hours of work causing my other confirmed work to fall behind since it was a pop up opportunity. I could have sent them an invoice for work already completed peppered with sarcasm and disdain, but for what?

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I try to be a great example for both my interns and my colleagues. I try to show them that situations like this happens in the world of entrepreneurship. My pr assistant asked me if I was mad and what I was going to do. I told her this,

At the end of the day, I did my job. I went in there and presented them with an amazing proposal and took their vision so far out of the box that they didn’t even know that it could be done. I was courteous, nice, and stern about what I was worth in order to execute. If they were unable to deliver for what ever reason, that has nothing to do with me. I choose to believe that the Universe is conspiring in my favor and preparing me for an even bigger opportunity.

You are in control of your emotions. You control how you react to what happens to you. You can either be controlled by the negative or control the negative, using it as motivation for something positive.

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The way you react to things that don’t go your way is directly correlated to what will happen next. If you come out of a situation knowing and believing you did your absolute best, you will be rewarded.

If you go into a situation knowing that you are going above and beyond to deliver the best service, project, presentation, speech, product, and all of the above at the end of the day THAT is what matters.

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So if someone decides that they can’t afford you or that your vision is too grand or that you are too much…come out of it unphased, you did your best anyway.

Style-spiration: Bright

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I wore this outfit several weeks ago when my mother dragged me to a wedding for one of her mentees. It was something I literally threw together.

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Sometimes I feel like that’s what the universe does to us. It just kind of throws things in the mix for us to sort them out and make sense of it. The folks who have learned and grown to appreciate it become better able to take whatever it is the universe has thrown at them and turn it into opportunities, lessons, growth. For them, no matter how crazy things may seem, the future is ALWAYS bright!

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That’s where I want to be. I can’t say that I am fully there because you know…I’m human. And I can’t say that every time the universe decides to throw in a paisley scarf, plaid skirt, and orange top that I’m going to agree that it goes together, but some where in there, it just works.

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The universe is funny like that. You’ll go years, months, days wondering why karma is picking on you and asking yourself what you did to deserve it, not realizing that everything happens for a reason. Everything happens to make you greater. Everything happens to make the future brighter.

 

Style-spiration: Unmasked

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I have found that the older I get, the more of myself I become.

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You would think after 27.5 years on this planet that I have completely come into my own, but honestly that’s far from the truth. You grow up completely influenced by your parents and what they expect of you. You start school and start becoming influenced by your friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, and teachers. You go to college and get influenced by campus life. You graduate and become influenced by the working society, just to wake up and wonder what your life is really about! Oh the trials of a twenthysomething!

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As you get older, you start to pick choose and refuse what you will be influenced by — taking off the mask of who people think you are and finally revealing yourself…your true self.

As the layers are peeling back and the mask gets lifted higher and higher, I find I love who I’ve become…I love who I am. All the influences of my life have shaped me to who I am and I couldn’t be more thankful for it.

I guess that’s what growing up is all about. Instead of fighting all your influencers, you appreciate them for who they are and what they’ve given you. You appreciate the fact that because of their influence, you have learned to unmask your true self.

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Outfit deets: Dress: Forever 21 (Similar) | Boots: GoJane (Similar) | Clutch: C/O Imperfect Concepts | Necklace: Boutique | Ring: Target | Mask: DIY

Who has influenced you for the better in your life? Has someone influenced you in a negative way, but you received a positive lesson from it? Let me know in your comments!

Women In PR: Relax and Rejuvenate Event

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This past Sunday, I had the absolute pleasure of attending Arkeedah McCormick’s Women In PR: Relax & Rejuvenate event hosted at My Fair Sweets in Atlanta, GA. It was filled with amazing women in the public relations and experiential industry who really wanted to come together for great networking and pampering. The event also doubled as the book signing for Nicole Garner’s Are You In? Inc: PR’s Alter Ego and Arkeedah’s How to Start A Blog: 10 Essential Steps You Need to Know.

I had an amazing time eating the delicious sweets of My Fair Sweets. I had the banana pudding and strawberry cheesecake…to be fair, I split half with hubby and they were pretty darn good! I also got a mini-massage and my nails did. Not to mention very inspiring conversations from some new faces. Check out some of the pics from the event!